Tuesday, December 4, 2007

How to Overcome a Break-up


Breaking up with your partner is always hard to do but sometimes it is necessary and you learn from it.

1. Stop reminiscing on how you used to be and what you used to do. The fun memories should be put in a basket. Now is the time to detox your mind and refresh it.

2. Don't call your ex. You probably will get the urge to call when you start feeling lonely. Instead, get busy (read a book, work on a project, excercise, go out with friends). If you need to, get a membership at the gym.

3. Let your emotions out. If you need to cry, cry. Talk to someone you trust. Smile, focus on things you like.

4. Don't date right after you break up. Give yourself some time to reenergize and look within yourself more. Set up expectations for your next relationship and do not date the first person that comes around because you feel lonely.

5. Do not spend time blaming yourself for what went wrong. You might have made some mistakes but hopefully, you learned from them and your ex was not perfect either. If your ex and you broke up, obviously you were not compatible.Think about how you are going to reinvent yourself and learn from your past relationship.

6. Do not think your ex is the last one and you will never find anyone like him or her.

7. Enjoy life and love yourself and accept that being alone is ok. Do not be a serial dater to fulfill your emptiness. Instead, focus on finding someone compatible to you.

Monday, December 3, 2007

How to Improve Your Love Relationship

1. Communication is the key to improve your relationship. Talk to your partner and voice how you feel. If something is not working in your relationship, tell your partner what the problem is to find the solution. Not saying a word will only make your relationship sink.
2. Be tolerant of the things you do not like about your partner. After all, you knew them when you got together. Find some positive things about your mate. Have a conversation with a decent tone of voice, do not scream or yell or get into your mate's face. You cannot change a person, so stop thinking if you do things a certain way, your partner will change and become like you want him or her to be. Do not say things you cannot take back. Express what you need because people cannot always guess what you want.
3. Go on dates with your partner (go to the movies, nice restaurant...). Give each other little gifts like chocolate, flowers... Have weekends you can spend without the kids (ask your family to babysit them). Read you poems you wrote for each other, go on getaways, take a hot bubble bath together...
4. Treat each other like when you first started dating and everything was fresh, new and romantic. Do not think that your partner is "in the bag". Do not stop doing things for your partner like opening the door or surprise them with a gift or taking car of yourself. Letting yourself go by not dressing up like you used to, not doing your hair, or putting on a lot of weight are factors that can reduce the attraction in a couple.
5. Be intimate, make time for romance.
6. Trust your partner. Jealousy will only tear you apart. If you choose to stay with your partner, trust him or her.

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Saturday, December 1, 2007

How to reduce stress

Stress is caused by several reasons: getting married, having a baby, losing a job, getting a divorce... But, sometimes it's not evident to see why we are stressed. Stress is feeling overwhelmed or feeling that you have to deal with more you can handle. Stress affects our health, it affects our immune system, so it makes our body harder to fight when we are sick. Stress causes headaches, back pain, insomnia, stomach pain... It also affects our emotions (moodiness, depressed, tense, irritated), therefore our relationships may suffer from it and our job performance can get lower. Apply these tips to reduce stress:

1. Think about what is causing the stress and try to solve it. Write what is bothering you and try to find solutions. Be honest with yourself.
2. Get plenty of rest, reduce smoking, drinking alcohol and stay hydrated by drinking water and eat well.
3. Pamper yourself, get a massage, use aromatherapy, dress nicely, get your hair done. Feeling good about yourself helps your emotions.
4. Excercise (run, walk, bike ride). Do yoga, it helps relax your muscles and your mind.
5. Don't ignore your emotions, cry if you need to, laugh, talk.
6. Do something you like, a hobby, shopping, write, watch your favorite show.
7. Talk to someone, a family member, a friend. Also, consider talking to a counselor.

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